Day 1 Challenge: The Power of Genuine Appreciation

“And speak to people kindly.” – (Qur’an 2:83)

Today, make it a point to express sincere appreciation to at least three people. Look for something specific and meaningful—whether it’s acknowledging a colleague’s hard work, thanking a family member for their support, or complimenting a friend’s kindness. Ensure your appreciation is genuine and not mere flattery.

Reflect on this:

• How has the act of appreciation affected your relationships
• Does appreciation come naturally for you, or is it a thing you must work on?

Tips for Success:

• Be specific in your appreciation. Instead of saying, “Great job,” say, “I really admire how much thought you put into that project.”
• Remember that even small acts deserve recognition.
• Keep in mind the hadith: “Whoever is not grateful to people is not grateful to God.” 

Day 2 Challenge: The Art of Listening with Presence

“If you want to be interesting, be interested.” – Dale Carnegie
“When the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) would turn to someone, he would turn completely.”

Today, practice deep, active listening in at least two conversations. Instead of thinking about your response while someone is speaking, focus entirely on their words. Use eye contact, nod in acknowledgment, and ask thoughtful follow-up questions. Avoid interrupting or shifting the focus back to yourself.

Reflect on this:

• When practicing active listening, do you notice any difference in how people respond to you?
• How did listening actively affect your understanding of others?

Tips for Success:

• Use the phrase “Tell me more” to encourage deeper conversation.
• Be fully present—put away distractions like your phone when someone is speaking.
• Reflect on how the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave his full attention to those who spoke to him.

Day 3 Challenge: Winning People Over by Avoiding Arguments

“I guarantee a house in Paradise for the one who gives up arguing, even if he is right.” – Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

Today, if you find yourself in a disagreement, resist the urge to argue. Instead of proving your point, focus on understanding the other person’s perspective. Use phrases like, “I see what you mean,” or “That’s an interesting point,” before gently sharing your thoughts.

Reflect on this:

• What does it look like to avoid argumentation in order to ease tension in your conversations?
• How do you expect it to affect your relationships and overall sense of peace?

Tips for Success:

• When emotions rise, take a deep breath before responding.
• Ask yourself: Is winning this argument more important than preserving the relationship?
• Remember that silence and patience are often more powerful than words.

We’d love to hear about your journey with these challenges! Share your reflections, experiences, and any insights you gained by reaching out to us at letsgrow@sowsee.com.